Sociology and dating
These findings would appear to indicate that though people aren’t necessarily opting for singlehood, they’re certainly being a lot more cautious, or sceptical, about marriage.And according to a 2011 report published by the US-based Pew Research Centre, something is indeed afoot, and in other parts of the world as well.Many Americans are seeking romantic bonds, but in a highly pragmatic or rational manner.Like the author of the article here discussed, I also found that while Americans wish to maximize their choices and options, the abundance of such choices — or their seeming abundance — in the marketplace of personal relationships creates new problems and obstacles for self-fulfillment.The median age for first time marriages increased over this period too; 23 for men in 1975 compared to 30 in 2013, 21 for women in 1975 as opposed to 28 in 2013.
Fast-forward to the 21st century and things are much different; in 2013 77% of marriages were preceded by cohabitation.
I was especially interested in the human qualities most highly valued by those looking for a long-term partner.
I came to the conclusion that the seamless compatibility pursued by the experts (and those they seek to help) is a fantasy not altogether different from the romantic yearnings of the past, which found expression in many novels.
In search of an alternate perspective on being single, Elite Singles spoke to one of the most prominent researchers involved in the study of singlehood; Bella De Paulo.
A visiting professor at the University of California, Santa Barbara, she has published extensively on broad range of issues that overlap with being single.