Psychology of married women dating men
Almost to a woman, those I interviewed said the same thing: “I have only one problem.
I would like to be married, but I find it impossible to meet eligible men no matter how I try—and nobody can say I don’t try.” How the man hunt is conducted This wail came alike from the throats of divorced, widowed and single women of all ages, regardless of whether they worked in the community in which they grew up (more than 50 per cent do) or whether they had taken a job halfway across the country from their childhood homes.
In the search, many women have come up with a geographical solution.
They have gone to the states with a high percentage of available males.
How can you meet a man there and be sure of his background? (The head of one of New York’s local Democratic clubs says, “They go from club to club to meet men; we call them Carpetbagging Liberals.”) Others go to evening classes at universities, taking courses in such subjects as “How to Sail a Boat,” with the hope that it will attract men.
The following article from a popular magazine of 1960 offered a sociological survey of the more than one-third of adult American women whose lives did not fit this domestic norm.
Based on interviews with single, divorced, and widowed women, and a host of “experts”, the author detailed the “frenzied” mating efforts of women who tried, but failed, to marry as well as the adverse psychological effects of being single.
Despite the evidence presented that unmarried women could be happy—sometimes even happier than their married counterparts—the article’s rhetorical emphasis on “frantic hordes of unwed women” relentlessly searching for husbands perpetrated a stereotypical depiction at odds with some of the statistics and testimonies quoted. To find the answers to these questions, I have interviewed scores of widows, divorced women, bachelor girls, men, gynecologists, psychologists, psychiatrists, managers of women’s hotels, executives of women’s organizations and Government statisticians.
Spasmodically, they go in for sports, becoming members of ski clubs, riding clubs, golf clubs.
They save their money for cruises—often discovering, once the ship is at sea, that they are trapped with dozens of other unattached women like themselves.