Problems with adult children and dating
Self-criticism External messages that you’re bad, crazy, and unlovable become internalized.You’re incredibly hard on yourself and struggle to forgive or love yourself.
More likely it’s shame and simply not knowing that adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs), as a group, tend struggle with a particular set of issues.Now you continue to take responsibility for other people’s feelings or for problems that you didn’t cause. Childhood fear and trauma left you in a hypervigilant state. If you identified with some of this list, like many other ACOAs, you developed these coping strategies and personality traits in order to deal with your dysfunctional family. Healing can start by simply knowing that you aren’t alone.Groups like Al-Anon and ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) provide free support and recovery.◊♦◊Photo: Andrew Yee/Flickr Read Sharon Martin’s column every week on The Good Men Project!If you grew up in an alcoholic or addicted family, chance are that it had a profound impact on you.Often, the full impact isn’t realized until many years later.