Interracial dating right or wrong
So obviously these stories are very popular, which is why these publications continue to put them out. are still looking, waiting and idolizing the white savior.
After all, stories mean page clicks, and page clicks equates to dollars. Yet science says that some of the same problems we find within the community can also be found interracially: In fact, the rate of divorce and domestic violence is much higher within interracial relationships and the incidence of spousal homicide is 7.7 higher in interracial relationships than in monoracial relationships.
Here is the standard disclaimer: I don’t have a problem with two folks of different races – or same gender for that matter – hooking up. How we empower our people is by teaching self-love and by erasing those mental chains that tell us that “we” are inherently bad.
Some people really do date outside of their race out of love and not some underlying motive. We heal the world by recognizing cultural differences, and yes skin tone, and by ensuring that our differences do not lead to inequality. However, if you are using love and sex as some sort of political statement, position for advancement or weapon of revenge and conquest, than you are no better, and odds are, you’re more part of the problem than you think.
You might even learn something too by stepping outside your cultural norms. We can’t help it if we have a preference for one type of look, such as one guy being attracted to skinny women with blond hair whereas another prefers curvy women with darker tones.
How can you tell when it is a fetish and not just attraction?
This can also be a problem with men, such as you getting shunned by your girlfriend’s male friends.
And if there are folks willing to read it, than you can place the blame solely on black media for continuing to cater to their audience. So much for thinking that the milk is less spoiled on the other side.
Which leads me to ask: If the color of the person we choose to date doesn’t matter, why do we talk about it so much? Truth is, championing dating interracially to empower the black community, particularly black women, is no more logical or rational than the colorblind racists, who believe that breeding ourselves into one in-between race will fix the world (yeah, like that worked for the Chinese and the Japanese).
They just got tired of the stares and comments so decided to go on dates elsewhere.
Or, if you are the woman in the interracial relationship, the women in your boyfriend’s life will probably shun you.